Losing something significant, especially the ones you really care about, is a tragedy. Be it a dear friend, a beloved family member, an attached pet, or your loving spouse - it is never easy. What is worse is when you are very desperate to move forward, to go on with your life, you feel like there is this giant person with a giant remote who presses the 'pause' button on your life. You're not the one holding the remote, so you can't do anything but be frozen in the screen and wait.
There is a reason, well, two, two reasons why you're on pause, in my opinion. First, you need time to heal. They say that time heals and time doesn't certainly rush in doing its job. If you suddenly move forward, you never have time to think everything through. It's time to feel sad, to accept that you have experienced a tragic loss. It is the time when you have to accept that there might be no other kind of ending for that event. I don't mean to mourn and lock yourself inside the room, but give yourself a break. You have gone through a lot.
Second, this is the time when you have to properly say goodbye. Sometimes what hangs us up is the improper way things end and we don't like that. We keep wondering if things ended differently. So, rather than moving forward, we busy our mind with all the happy endings that could have happened. There's no time to regret! It's time to say goodbye, and for what's it's worth, you can do by your own. Admit that there's nothing between you anymore and that it's time to go. Say goodbye.
Moving on is tricky but it's not impossible. As I said, time heals, and time is your best friend that you don't want to lose here. It'll help you move forward, when you're ready.
I have to say goodbye too.
6 comments:
Just only say, be patience.Setiap kesusahan pasti bertemu kesenangan and vice versa. Be hard ok. I delivered 'Kehidupan' song by inteam 2console ur heart.
awww, thanks aslam... weh, td aku dpt skype, tp aku punye msg mcm tak terhantar...xtau nape...
apa2 pon thanks aslam...ingatla aku dlm doa kau...
to move forward & to forget the past is sometime hard to do.. but as per entry I'll do !! its a must to move without a regret.. sometime some people just doesn't deserve to be remembered..
hamboi, marahnya kak asia...tp betolla tu...don't let a person define who you are...
i like ur view..in a very gud way..dat tyme is really help u to heal..
insyaallah...
i really do cry wen i first tyme read it..
i really appreciate it..thanks taufik...=)
awww, you're welcome. :)
hope you benefit from it.
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